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Basic Etiquette Rules for Every Family Member

Mon, 30 Jan 2012 09:31:00 -0700

source: family-home-evenings.com

Purpose: It is important to teach and practice basic manners (etiquette) to show respect and kindness to one another.

Lesson: Etiquette differs from various regions of the United States as well as different parts of the world– each culture has it’s own acceptable forms of etiquette or mannerisms that they follow to show respect.

FHE: Agency

Mon, 30 Jan 2012 00:05:00 -0700

by Shauna Gibby
source: MormonLife.com

Mormon Life says: One of the greatest gifts our Heavenly Father has given us is the power to choose. With that power, we show Him what our hearts really desire.

Conference Talk:
For more information on this topic read “Choose Eternal Life,” by Elder Randall K. Bennett, Ensign, Nov 2011, 98.

Thought:
In reality we have only two eternal choices, each with eternal consequences: choose to follow the Savior of the world and thus choose eternal life with our Heavenly Father or choose to follow the world and thus choose to separate ourselves from Heavenly Father eternally.

We cannot successfully choose both the safety of righteousness and the dangers of worldliness.

(Elder Randall K. Bennett, “Choose Eternal Life,” Ensign, Nov 2011, 98.)

Song:
“I’m Trying to Be like Jesus,” Children’s Songbook, p. 78.

Scripture:
Wherefore, men are free according to the flesh; and all things are given them which are expedient unto man. And they are free to choose liberty and eternal life, through the great Mediator of all men, or to choose captivity and death, according to the captivity and power of the devil; for he seeketh that all men might be miserable like unto himself.

(2 Nephi 2:27)

Lesson:
Draw a line down the middle of a large sheet of paper or poster board. Have your family read Alma 29:4–5 and find the opposites contained in the verses. List one word on the left side of the board and its opposite on the right side of the board. When finished, the board might look something like the chart below:

Life | Death
|
Salvation | Destruction
|
Good | Evil
|
Joy | Remorse of conscience

Ask your family which list they would rather have and why. What would they be willing to do to enjoy those things?

Look again at Alma 29:4–5 and underline phrases showing that God allows us to have what we want (for example, “he granteth unto men according to their desire”; “he allotteth unto men . . . according to their wills”; “it is given according to his desires”). Ask:

• How might knowing that the Lord “granteth unto men according to their desire” in this life affect our decisions for the future?
• What can we do to show the Lord that we want life and salvation more than death and destruction?

(Dennis H. Leavitt and Richard O. Christensen, Scripture Study for Latter-day Saint Families: The Book of Mormon, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 2004], p. 196.)

Story:
by Bishop Robert L. Simpson

[One] night my high-school-age son persuaded me to sit down and watch the second half of a football game. I have always made it a policy that no sacrifice is too great for my boy. So we sat down and watched football. While watching this game, some facts became very apparent. In fact, it had gospel application and priesthood application.

I noticed, for example, that there were no shortcuts to the goal line. It was a hundred yards in both directions. I also noticed that the team that seemed to have had the most practice, that did the best planning, that executed their plays the best, and that had the best team attitude, was the team that made the most points.

I also noticed that when team members cooperated and helped one another, the team made the most yardage.

It was also obvious that when someone broke the rules, there was always a penalty imposed. It sounds a lot like life, doesn’t it? In talking about this to my boy, he said, “Fifteen yards is nothing; but, Dad, when you ground me for three days, that is too much.”

We also noticed that no one was allowed to make up his own rules as the game progressed. They all lost their free agency to do that when they agreed to join the team and play according to the established rules.

And last but not least, I noticed when it was all over, the winning team was a lot happier than the team that lost.

Now brethren, we believe that “men are, that they might have joy”; and joy can best come as we obtain victory in the game of life, played according to the only acceptable rules—those set down by our Heavenly Father.

(Leon R. Hartshorn, Outstanding Stories by General Authorities, vol. 2, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1971].)

Activity:
Seat everyone in a circle. Position one person with a thimbleful of water in the center of the circle. The person in the center picks a category that has a limited number of items in it. For example: states, plays of Shakespeare, names of those in the room, U.S. Presidents, units of English measure, countries in Europe, and so on. He then secretly writes down one item in the category.

As the person in the center moves from one person to the next, those seated have to name one of the items in the category. Items may not be repeated.

When a person names the written item, the person in the center throws the thimbleful of water into the face of that person. People also get splashed if they name an item already mentioned. The person who is splashed trades places with the person in the center, and the game continues with a new category.

(George and Jeane Chipman, Games! Games! Games!, [Salt Lake City: Shadow Mountain, 1983], p. 44.)

Refreshment
Crispy Taquitos

12 sticks sharp cheddar cheese
24 10-inch flour tortillas
2 tablespoons vegetable oil

Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Cut each cheese stick in half lengthwise to make 2 thin sticks. Place 1 thin stick on edge of each tortilla; roll tortilla tightly around cheese. Brush edge of tortilla with water to seal. Press to seal. Repeat with remaining cheese and tortillas. Place taquitos, seam sides down, on cookie sheet. Brush each lightly with oil. Bake 5 to 7 minutes or until edges of tortillas are golden brown and cheese is melted.

Serves 6.

(Jill McKenzie, 52 Weeks of Proven Recipes for Picky Kids, [Salt Lake City: Shadow Mountain, 2008], p. 116.)

To get the PDF version of this lesson, click here.

FHE: Experience

Mon, 23 Jan 2012 00:05:00 -0700

by Shauna Gibby
source: MormonLife.com

Mormon Life says: Every experience we have in life will strengthen and improve us - if we allow it. Conference Talk:
For more information on this topic read “Waiting Upon the Lord,” by Elder Robert D. Hales, Ensign, Nov 2011, 71.

Thought:
The purpose of our life on earth is to grow, develop, and be strengthened through our own experiences.

(Elder Robert D. Hales, “Waiting Upon the Lord,” Ensign, Nov 2011, 71.)

Song:
“Seek the Lord Early,” Children’s Songbook, p. 108.

Scripture:
Know thou, my son, that all these things shall give thee experience, and shall be for thy good. (Doctrine and Covenants 122:7)

Story:
On October 27, 1838, Governor Lilburn B. Boggs, heeding the false accusations of many apostates and enemies of the church, ordered, “The Mormons must be treated as enemies and must be exterminated or driven from the State, if necessary for the public good.” Three days later was the massacre at Haun’s Mill. By October 31 state militias had surrounded Far West, outnumbering the Saints five to one. Colonel Hinkle, the commanding officer for the Saints, betrayed the prophet and other church leaders by convincing them that General Lucas of the militia wanted to meet with them in a peace conference. Once they met the General, Hinkle surrendered them as prisoners.

On the night of November 1, 1838, an illegal court was held where the prisoners were not invited. The court sentenced Joseph and his companions to be shot in the Far West town square at eight o’clock the next morning. General Doniphan refused to carry out the sentence saying, “It is cold-blooded murder. I will not obey your order, and if you execute those men, I will hold you responsible before an earthly tribunal, so help me God!” This courageous action saved their lives. Joseph Smith and the others were then taken from one jail to another until settling in Liberty Jail for five months. It was in this setting that the Prophet wrote an important letter from which sections 121, 122, and 123 are taken. Of this letter, Joseph Fielding Smith wrote:

“It is a prayer and a prophecy and an answer by revelation from the Lord. None other but a noble soul filled with the spirit of love of Christ could have Conference Talk: written such a letter. Considering the fact that these prisoners had been confined several months; were fed on food at times not fit for a pig, and at times impregnated with poison and once being offered human flesh, evidently from the body of one of their brethren, it is no wonder that the Prophet cried out in the anguish of his soul for relief. Yet, in his earnest pleading, there breathed a spirit of tolerance and love for his fellow man. . . . It was his people for whom he pled, more than for himself.” (Church History and Modern Revelation, 3:197.) Watch for how differently the Lord views our troubles from the way we view them.

(Dennis H. Leavitt and Richard O. Christensen, Scripture Study for Latter-day Saint Families: The Doctrine and Covenants, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 2004], p. 268.)

Lesson:
Ask family members to think of and share one of their greatest trials. Read together the story above and the section heading to D&C 121. Compare the trials mentioned by family members with those of Joseph and ask:

• When a person is suffering a great trial, what kind of questions might they ask of God?
• What kinds of questions do you think Joseph Smith might have asked of God?

Invite someone to read D&C 121:1–3 aloud and have your family identify and mark each question Joseph asked. Ask:

• What questions does Joseph ask instead of “why”?
• In what way might asking God “Why?” show a lack of trust in Him or even accuse God of not being there when needed?
• How do questions like, “Where art thou” and “How long,” show more faith than asking, “Why”?

Read together D&C 121:4–6 and look for what Joseph requested of the Lord. Ask:

• Who is Joseph requesting the most help for?
• What does it teach us about Joseph’s heart that he prays for others more than for himself?

Encourage your family to remember others during their prayers and challenge them to trust that God has a purpose behind the trials we are given.

(Dennis H. Leavitt and Richard O. Christensen, Scripture Study for Latter-day Saint Families: The Doctrine and Covenants, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 2004], p. 268.)

Activity:
All players, except one, are seated in a closed circle which contains one empty chair. One player is “it” and stands in the center. He tries to seat himself in the vacant chair that is continually being taken by the person next to it. “It” calls “slide right” or “slide left” and thus controls the direction the group moves. Whe he calls “slide right,” the person who finds the chair on his right empty, must slide into it. When “slide left” is called, each player is responsible for occupying the vacant chair on his left. When “it” gets a chair, the person who should have taken the chair becomes “it.”

(Alma Heaton, The LDS Game Book, [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1968], p.43.)

Refreshment
Strawberry Cheesecake Bars

1 (16-ounce) package Pecan Sandies Cookies, divided
1 1⁄2 tablespoons butter, melted
11 ounces cream cheese, softened (not low-fat) 2 eggs
2⁄3 cup sugar
pinch salt
1 1⁄2 teaspoons vanilla
1⁄2 teaspoon almond extract
2 cups sour cream
1 1⁄4 cups strawberry jam, divided (you can also use bottled strawberry topping or canned strawberry pie filling)

1. Preheat oven to 375 degrees F.

2. Spray a 9 x 13-inch pan with nonstick cooking spray. In a food processor, process 3⁄4 of the Pecan Sandies (reserve 6 cookies). Mix with melted butter and lightly press onto the bottom of the pan. Set aside.

3. In a large bowl or the bowl of a stand mixer, combine cream cheese, eggs, sugar, salt, vanilla, almond extract, and sour cream. Beat on high for 4–5 minutes. Spread half of the cheesecake batter onto the bottom of a 9 x 13-inch pan lightly sprayed with nonstick cooking spray.

4. Pour 3⁄4 cup of the strawberry sauce over the batter, spreading gently to cover the surface (it doesn’t have to be perfect). Spread remaining cheesecake batter over the strawberry layer and then spoon remaining 1⁄2 cup of strawberry sauce over the batter. Being careful not to cut into the surface of the cookie crust, swirl the strawberry mixture with a butter knife.

5. Bake for 25–35 minutes or until center is jiggly but not liquid. While baking, process remaining 6 cookies. During the last 10 minutes of baking, sprinkle the cookies on top of the cheesecake. Chill for at least 8 hours and cut into squares. If desired, drizzle remaining strawberry sauce over the individual squares.

(Sara Wells and Kate Jones, Our Best Bites, [Salt Lake City: Shadow Mountain, 2011], p. 216.)

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FHE: Name Written Always on Your Hearts

Tue, 17 Jan 2012 11:30:00 -0700

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Mosiah 5:12 " I say unto you, I would that ye should remember to retain the name written always in your hearts, that ye are not found on the left hand of God, but that ye hear and know the voice by which ye shall be called, and also, the name by which he shall call you."

FHE: Self-reliance

Mon, 09 Jan 2012 00:03:00 -0700

by Shauna Gibby
source: MormonLife.com

Mormon Life says: Prophets have commanded us to be self-reliant and prepared for all situations. Use this lesson to discuss these principles and how to attain them. Conference Talk:
For more information on this topic read “Providing in the Lord’s Way” by President Dieter F. Uchtdorf, Ensign, Nov 2011, 53.

Thought:
The Lord’s way of self-reliance involves in a balanced way many facets of life, including education, health, employment, family finances, and spiritual strength. Familiarize yourself with the modern welfare program of the Church.

(President Dieter F. Uchtdorf, “Providing in the Lord’s Way” Ensign, Nov 2011, 53.)

Song:
“The Prophet Said to Plant a Garden,” Children’s Songbook, p. 237.

Scripture:
And again Alma commanded that the people of the church should impart of their substance, every one according to that which he had; if he have more abundantly he should impart more abundantly; and of him that had but little, but little should be required; and to him that had not should be given. (Mosiah 18:27)

Lesson:
Display a 72-hour kit, or other food storage item. Explain that when a natural disaster occurs, people often begin to think about preparations they wish they had made. Have your family suggest things they think are important to have prior to a natural disaster. Invite a family member to read Exodus 11:1–3. Ask:

• What was Israel asked to do?
• Why were they successful in their requests of their Egyptian neighbors?

Ask your family to silently read Exodus 11:5–10, looking for the plague about to come upon the Egyptians. Ask your family why they think Pharaoh would not let the children of Israel go, even after all the previous plagues sent upon Egypt (see footnote 10a).

Read D&C 43:23–27 aloud. Testify that the Lord continues to speak to us by the voice of disasters and plagues, and that it is important for us to heed His warnings. Make a plan to be prepared both physically and spiritually and to follow the warnings of our modern prophet.

(Dennis H. Leavitt and Richard O. Christensen, Scripture Study for Latter-day Saint Families: The Old Testament, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 2009], p. 37.)

Story:
During a particularly difficult financial time, I turned to God for help. I suppose that I am like other people whose prayers are offered with more feeling in times of urgent need. I remember feeling ashamed that I had not previously put more effort into my relationship with God when money had been plentiful. Still, believing that such petitioning could help, I arose one morning and began to plead for help.

The answer came in a strange way. A thought entered my mind: Your friend Paul [name changed] has no food in his house. Go and take him some money.

“But I have so little,” I said aloud. Then, considering to whom I was talking, I asked, “How much?” One hundred dollars.

I felt anxiety shoot through me. One hundred dollars was all I had in the bank! I searched myself, hoping that I had imagined the whole thing. I tried to pray again but felt only silence. Then, through the quiet I perceived a message. It seemed to say, Will you trust me or not?

Paul was a good man who had recently lost his income source and was struggling through very difficult financial times. No effort of his had seemed to be able to stop the rapid decline of his assets and reserves.

I drove to the bank, withdrew one hundred dollars, and headed to Paul’s house. When I pressed the money into his hand, he couldn’t hold back the tears. He said, “My wife and I totally ran out of food last night. We have been up since four o’clock this morning praying for a miracle.”

I never missed the one hundred dollars. One thing after another fell into place that allowed me to sustain my family. But no miracle was as great as the one that occurred inside me when I discovered that God truly loves his children and often uses other people to prove it.

(Larry Barkdull, Gifts: True Stories of God’s Love, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 2004], p. 101.)

Activity:
Build a pyramid with canned goods. Try for highest, largest, or most creative.

Refreshment
Shufly Cake

4 1/4 cups flour
1 cup light brown sugar 1 cup sugar
1 cup butter
2 cups boiling water
1 cup molasses
1/4 cup apricot jam
1 tablespoon cinnamon
2 teaspoons soda
Blend flour, sugars, and butter into crumbs. Set aside 1 cup of crumbs for topping. Mix boiling water, molasses, jam, cinnamon, and soda. Add to remaining crumbs. Grease and flour 13 x 9-inch pan. Pour in batter and sprinkle with reserved crumbs. Bake at 350 degrees for 40-45 minutes. Do not overbake.

(Hollee Eckman and Heather Higgins, All that Jam, [Salt Lake City: Shadow Mountain, 2003], p. 81.)

To get the PDF version of this lesson, click here.

FHE: New Year Individual and Family Goals

Wed, 04 Jan 2012 12:35:00 -0700

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Purpose: Setting goals and establishing resolutions is the number one way people begin the New Year. The most important aspect is to plan according to what you really want to accomplish in realistic time frames. You can plan for one long-term goal(s), something to focus on throughout the year and you can also do smaller, short-term goals to work on for a few months at a time, or even shorter. The most important aspect is “if you fail to plan, you plan to fail.”

This lesson is to help jump-start individuals and families to set goals to for the New Year.

{Lifestyle} Bowl Game Family Night

Tue, 03 Jan 2012 10:18:00 -0700

by Molly Gray
source: MormonLife.com

Mormon Life says: Next Monday is the BCS National Championship game. After you're done with your FHE lesson, make a family night activity out of it with this trivia game.

If your home is anything like my home, this coming Monday, family night is going to revolve around one thing: the BCS National Championship bowl game (the Alabama Crimson Tide vs. the Louisiana State Tigers). We love college football, so even though our favorite teams have all ended their seasons, we will definitely be watching.

If your family isn’t as college football savvy as we are, here is a fun game of trivia about the sport and the two teams that you can play with your family! So are easier than other and some are just downright silly. But that’s what family night is for, right?

1. How many yards are needed for a team to get a first down?
2. Who is the head coach of the Crimson Tide?
3. Who is the starting quarterback for the Tigers?
4. What is the slogan of the state of Alabama?
5. Who was the state of Louisiana named after?
6. What are the Tigers’ team colors?
7. How many Heisman winners have come out of the Crimson Tide program?
8. What is the state bird of Louisiana?
9. What is the capital of Louisiana?
10. What does the Alabama flag look like?
11. What is the Tigers mascot’s name?
12. The first footballs were made out of the hide of what animal?
13. Both teams are in which conference division?
14. When was the last time that the Tigers won the national championship?
15. How many points is a touchdown worth?

Another fun thing to do as a family is to eat only foods that come in a bowl—soup, chili, cereal, ice cream—for the whole day.

You can also have each member of the family pick a team to root for and dress in that team’s colors. The losing team’s fans get to do dishes and clean up! Just remember to keep it a friendly competition!

Answers:

1. Ten yards
2. Nick Saban
3. Morgan Ogilvie
4. The Heart of Dixie
5. King Louis XIV
6. Purple and gold
7. One
8. The Eastern Brown Pelican
9. Baton Rouge
10. White with a red diagonal cross
11. Mike the Tiger
12. The pig
13. The SEC Western Division
14. 2007
15. Six, plus an attempt for an extra point after by kicking it through the uprights

FHE: Time Management

Mon, 02 Jan 2012 00:05:00 -0700

by Shauna Gibby
source: MormonLife.com

Mormon Life says: "Do not squander time, for that is the stuff life is made of." - Benjamin Franklin Conference Talk:
For more information on this topic read “A Time to Prepare,” by Elder Ian S. Ardern, Ensign, Nov 2011, 31.

Thought:
The poor use of time is a close cousin of idleness. As we follow the command to “cease to be idle” (D&C 88:124), we must be sure that being busy also equates to being productive.

(Elder Ian S. Ardern, “A Time to Prepare,” Enisgn, Nov 2011, 31.)

Song:
“Saturday,” Children’s Songbook, p. 196

Scripture:
Cease to be idle; cease to be unclean; cease to find fault one with another; cease to sleep longer than is needful; retire to thy bed early, that ye may not be weary; arise early, that your bodies and your minds may be invigorated. (Doctrine and Covenants 88:124)

Lesson:
Give each family member a clock or watch to hold. On your signal, ask them to watch their clock tick for one minute. Point out how everyone’s clock runs at the same pace. Explain that each of us has twenty-four hours each day, but some people seem to accomplish more than others. Talk about what some people do differently that seems to give them more time.

Ask, “If you were given the next three days to do whatever you wanted—with no obligations or restrictions—how would you spend your time?” After talking about their ideas for a few minutes, remind family members that although we seldom have such an opportunity, we do have much freedom in choosing how we spend our time. Ask, “When you think about how to spend your time, what most affects your decisions?”

Have a family member read the section heading for D&C 73. Then read aloud the historical background below.

On December 1, 1831, the Lord commanded Joseph Smith and Sidney Rigdon to preach the gospel in the regions surrounding Kirtland, addressing negative things enemies of the Church had said and written. (See D&C 71.) They returned from this brief mission the second week of January and awaited a conference that had been planned for January 25 in Amherst, Ohio (about fifty miles west of Kirtland). As the Prophet considered how to best spend his time prior to the conference, he received the revelation recorded in D&C 73.

Ask:

• Based on this background, what appears to be one way Joseph Smith decided how to best use his time? (Seeking the Lord in prayer.)
• In response to the Prophet’s request, what did the Lord counsel him in D&C 73:1–6 about how to spend the next two weeks?
• What could this instruction teach you about important ways to spend your time?

Encourage your family to regularly seek the counsel of the Lord and His prophets as they decide how to best use their time—always being sure to make time for things of greatest value.

Share the following statements from Elder Neal A. Maxwell:

“How we spend our time is at least as good a measure of us as how we spend our money. An inventory of how we spend our disposable time will tell us where our treasure is.” (Notwithstanding My Weakness, 116–17.)

“Time, unlike some material things, cannot be recycled.” (A Time to Choose, 13.)

(Dennis H. Leavitt and Richard O. Christensen, Scripture Study for Latter-day Saint Families: The Doctrine and Covenants, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 2004], p. 152.)

Story:
Elder Elray L. Christiansen

I think of a man they told me about in one of the stakes I was in not long ago. You know how we go out and try to activate the inactive, bring them along, get them to attend church meetings while time lasts. A president of an elders quorum told this story of a man whom they had called on many times, a good man who had good intentions. He welcomed them to his home, listened to them, and he would usually say, “Well, I will. I intend to. I will do it. I will come to church when I get straightened out.”

Then they would go back another time. The same story, “Well, when I get straightened out, I’ll come to church.”

Then the elders president said, “I was called on to speak at that man’s funeral. He was in church all right, and he was surely straightened out.”

But along the way he had lost a lot of the precious opportunities that time could have provided him in the way of preparation.

It seems to me that life is a series of chapters, and chapters have a way of ending. Your time at the BYU will end. This school year will end. You will leave feeling that your time here has been used wisely, or you will leave with some misgivings about time being unprofitably used. Now we must have recreation and fun and diversion, but it also should be planned, scheduled—and not overdone.

(Leon R. Hartshorn, Outstanding Stories by General Authorities, vol. 3, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book Company, 1974].)

Activity:
Play freeze tag.

Choose one person to be “it.” “It” chases other family members until they tag them. Once someone has been touched, that person must stop running and remain in the position they were in when they were tagged; in other words they have to “freeze.”

If you are not “it” you can unfreeze other players by touching them as you run by. Continue the game until everyone is frozen. The last person to be tagged becomes “it.”

Refreshment
Chocolate Mint Cookies
Chocolate and mint are a winning combination.

1 (18.25-ounce) package devil’s food cake mix 2 eggs
1⁄3 cup oil

Heat oven to 350o F.

In a large bowl, combine cake mix, eggs, and oil. Knead to make dough. Roll into 1-inch balls. Place on an ungreased cookie sheet. Flatten slightly. Bake 8 to 10 minutes. Cool.

Frosting
1 (3-ounce) package cream cheese, softened 1⁄4 cup butter or margarine, softened
1 tablespoon hot water
3 cups powdered sugar
1⁄2 teaspoon mint extract (more if desired)
3 to 4 drops green food coloring

Mix cream cheese, butter, water, and powdered sugar in a large bowl until smooth. Add mint extract and food coloring. Mix. Frost cookies.

Makes 2 to 21⁄2 dozen cookies.

(Janet Peterson, Remedies for the “I Don’t Cook” Syndrome, [Salt Lake City:Eagle Gate, 2001], p.276.)

To get the PDF version of this lesson, click here.

FHE: Future

Mon, 26 Dec 2011 00:05:00 -0700

by Shauna Gibby
source: MormonLife.com

Mormon Life says: We do not know all that the future holds, but we can shape it through our choices and goals.

Conference Talk:
For more information on this topic read “Face the Future with Faith,” by Elder Russell M. Nelson, Ensign, May 2011, 34.

Thought:
All that the future holds in store for each sacred child of God will be shaped by his or her parents, family, friends, and teachers. Thus, our faith now becomes part of our posterity’s faith later.

(Elder Russell M. Nelson, “Face the Future with Faith,” Ensign, May 2011, 34.)

Song:
“Now Let Us Rejoice,” Hymns, #3.

Scripture:
And I, the Lord, would fight their battles, and their children’s battles, and their children’s children’s, until they had avenged themselves on all their enemies, to the third and fourth generation. (Doctrine and Covenants 98:37)

Object Lesson:
Explain to family members that one way to ensure a good future is to set goals.

Materials Needed: Seven coins.

Procedure: Tell the class that you have seven coins. Ask one person to catch the coins when you throw them. Tell him to catch as many as he can. Toss the coins all at once to the catcher. Ask:

How many coins did you catch? Gather the coins and then toss them one at a time. Ask:

How many coins did you catch this time?

Explain that the coins are like goals, assignments, or tasks to be completed. When we try to take on too many things at one time, some may not be accomplished (or caught). By careful planning, more goals will be effectively completed when taken one at a time.

(Beth Lefgren and Jennifer Jackson, Object Lessons Made Easy, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 2010], p. 35.)

Story:
James Talmage

During my college days, now more than a quarter of a century past, I was one of a class of students appointed to fieldwork as a part of our prescribed courses in geology. . . .

A certain assignment had kept us in the field many days. We had traversed, examined, and charted, miles of lowlands and uplands, valleys and hills, mountain heights and canyon defiles. As the time allotted to the investigation drew near its close, we were overtaken by a violent windstorm, followed by a heavy snow,—unseasonable and unexpected, but which, nevertheless, increased in intensity so that we were in danger of being snowbound in the hills. The storm reached its height while we were descending a long and steep mountain-side several miles from the little railway station, at which we had hoped to take the train that night for home. With great effort we reached the station late at night, while the storm was yet raging. We were suffering from the intense discomfiture, we learned that the expected train had been stopped by snow-drifts a few miles from the little station at which we waited.

Long after midnight the train arrived, in a terrific whirl of wind and snow. I lingered behind my companions, as they hurriedly clambered aboard, for I was attracted by the engineer, who, during the brief stop, while his assistant was attending to the water replenishment, bustled about the engine, oiling some parts, adjusting others, and generally overhauling the panting locomotive. I ventured to speak to him, busy though he was. I asked how he felt on such a night. . . .

His answer was a lesson not yet forgotten. In effect he said, though in jerky and disjointed sentences: “Look at the engine headlight. Doesn’t that light up the track for a hundred yards or more? Well, all I try to do is to cover that hundred yards of lighted track. That I can see, and for that distance I know the road-bed is open and safe. And,” he added, with what, through the swirl and the dim lamp- lighted darkness of the roaring night, I saw was a humorous smile on his lips, and a merry twinkle of his eye, “believe me, I have never been able to drive this old engine of mine, God bless her! so fast as to outstrip that hundred yards of lighted track. The light of the engine is always ahead of me!”

As he climbed to his place in the cab, I hastened to board the first passenger coach; and, as I sank into the cushioned seat, in blissful enjoyment of the warmth and general comfort, offering strong contrast to the wildness of the night without, I thought deeply of the words of the grimy, oil-stained engineer. They were full of faith—the faith that accomplishes great things, the faith that gives courage and determination, the faith that leads to works. For a little distance the storm-swept track was lighted up for that short space the engineer drove on!

We may not know what lies ahead of us in the future years nor even in the days or hours immediately beyond. But for a few yards, or possibly only a few feet, the track is clear, our duty is plain, our course is illumined. For that short distance for the next step, lighted by the inspiration of God, go on!

(Leon R. Hartshorn, Exceptional Stories from the Lives of Our Apostles, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1972].)

Activity:
Have family members take turns being blindfolded. After they have the blindfold on scatter the coins from the object lesson on the floor. Give them thirty seconds to gather up as many of the coins as possible. After each person has gathered with the blindfold on, give everyone a second chance to gather the coins. This time they will have twenty seconds but will not be blindfolded. Point out that more blessings (coins) can be gathered in a shorter time when we can see (have goals for the future) than when we can’t see (are wasting time by not working toward goals).

(Adapted from Jeni Gochnour, Family Home Evening Games, [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1999], p 12.)

Refreshment
Monkey Bread
They’ll “hang around” for more.

20 frozen Rhodes® or other brand rolls 3⁄4 cup sugar, white or brown
1 tablespoon cinnamon
1⁄2 cup butter, melted

Thaw 20 frozen rolls by placing ten at a time on a plate in the microwave. Set microwave on defrost setting or lowest setting. Microwave the rolls at one-minute intervals for three minutes, turning the plate after each minute. Remove from microwave. Cut each roll in half. Stir together sugar and cinnamon. Dip each roll in melted butter, then roll in sugar-cinnamon mixture. Layer rolls in a greased Bundt pan. Pour any remaining butter or sugar-cinnamon mixture over top of rolls. Allow rolls to rise till double in volume, about three hours. Bake at 350 degrees for about 25 minutes. Turn pan upside down onto serving plate. Serve immediately. Makes 8 to 10 servings.

(Julie Badger Jensen, Essential Mormon Celebrations, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 2005], p. 114.)

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FHE: Being Christlike

Mon, 19 Dec 2011 00:04:00 -0700

by Shauna Gibby
source: MormonLife.com

Mormon Life says: "May your efforts to develop Christlike attributes be successful so that His image may be engraven in your countenance and His attributes manifest in your behavior." -Lynn G. Robbins Conference Talk:
For more information on this topic read “What Manner of Men and Women Ought Ye to Be?” by Elder Lynn G. Robbins, Ensign, May 2011, 103.

Thought:
May your efforts to develop Christlike attributes be successful so that His image may be engraven in your countenance and His attributes manifest in your behavior.

(Elder Lynn G. Robbins, “What Manner of Men and Women Ought Ye to Be?” Ensign, May 2011, 103.)

Song:
“Beautiful Savior,” Children’s Songbook, p. 62.

Scripture:
And know ye that ye shall be judges of this people, according to the judgment which I shall give unto you, which shall be just. Therefore, what manner of men ought ye to be? Verily I say unto you, even as I am. (3 Nephi 27:27)

Object Lesson:
Materials Needed: Several leaves, two sheets of paper for each person, and crayons.

Procedure: Show the group a leaf. Pass out paper and crayons and ask them to draw a picture of the leaf as accurately as possible. When the drawing is finished, give each individual a leaf. Have them cover their leaf with the second piece of paper and color lightly over it to create a leaf rubbing. Discuss which image is a closer replica and why. Using the leaf as a direct pattern produces a very similar likeness.

Compare this to our efforts to become like Christ and develop his attributes. By developing a close relationship with him through study, prayer, and obedience, we can become more like him. Over time, his likeness or image will even show in our countenances.

(Beth Lefgren and Jennifer Jackson, Object Lessons Made Easy, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 2010], p. 18.)

Story:
Now let’s talk about some of the consequences of seeing yourself first, foremost, and always as a Christian. The first consequence is that the juggling stops. If you think of all your tasks, jobs, and roles as balls that you somehow have to keep in the air, then your religious service is just another ball to add. Sooner or later, you’re going to drop the balls, because no one can juggle forever. But if you are a Christian, then that is your permanent identity and everything else is temporary. Think of this example. You dash into the grocery store to pick up some ice cream for supper. You’re a harried mom, a frantic shopper, eager to get in and get out. Other people are in your way—the person stocking the shelves, the people ahead of you in the checkout line, the checker. You’re even more frazzled when you reach the car.

But suppose you go in as a Christian disguised as a shopper. You see other people on your way to the ice cream, excuse yourself and smile when you reach past the person stocking the shelves, comment on the weather to the person standing in front of you at the checkout stand, and thank the checker who whisks the ice cream into a bag for you. You reach the car having had three very pleasant encounters and feeling good.

If we see every place, every job, every responsibility as an opportunity to be with another precious child of God who needs our ministry, the ministry we can bring as a Christian and as a disciple of Christ, then even a very busy schedule doesn’t feel like juggling any more. Something has taken the fragmentation out of it and given us a unified purpose.

My husband, Ed, was this kind of Christian, an every-day Christian, even an every-minute Christian. Sometimes we think that the life of a disciple is hard, but if you knew Ed, you would know that it is a joyous, rewarding life.

(Chieko N. Okazaki, Aloha!, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1995].)

Activity:
Divide the family into two teams. Play tic tac toe, but the teams must correctly answer a questions before they can place their mark on the game grid.

Questions:

1. What kind of body did Jesus have? (Flesh and bones)
2. How did Jesus die? (Crucified on the cross)
3. Who appeared to Jospeh Smith in the Sacred Grove? (Heavenly Father and Jesus)
4. Who was the mother of Jesus? (Mary)
5. In what town was Jesus born? (Bethlehem)
6. Who appeared to the shepherds when Jesus was born? (Angels)
7. How many apostles did Jesus choose? (Twelve)
8. Where was Jesus baptized? (River Jordan)
9. Who are we to remember when we partake of the Sacrament? (Jesus)
10. Who did Jesus help to walk on the water? (Peter)
11. What do we call the last meal that Jesus ate? (The last supper)
12. Who baptized Jesus? (John the Baptist)
13. Who brought gifts to Jesus after he was born? (Wise men)
14. How many lepers did Jesus heal? (Ten)
15. What is the name of the garden where Jesus suffered for our sins? (Garden of Gethsemane)
16. Where was Jesus buried? (In a tomb)
17. What happened to Jesus after he had been in the tomb for three days? (Resurrected)
18. Who was the first person the resurrected Jesus appeared to? (Mary Magdalene)
19. Jesus said we should build our house on what? (A rock)
20. When Jesus called the apostles he told them he would make them fishers of what? (Men)

Refreshment
Chewy Chex® Mix
This treat is a hit with all ages.

8 cups Rice Chex (or the Chex cereal of your choice) 1 cup coconut
1 cup sliced almonds
1 cup chow mein noodles
1⁄4 cup butter or margarine
6 cups miniature marshmallows

Combine Chex, coconut, almonds, and noodles in a large bowl. Melt butter over medium heat; blend in marshmallows and stir until melted. Pour over cereal mixture; spread on waxed paper to cool. Store in an airtight container or individual plastic bags. Makes about 10 cups.

(Julie Badger Jensen, The Essential Mormon Cookbook, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 2004], p. 130.)

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Christmas FHE ideas

Mon, 12 Dec 2011 09:59:00 -0700

source: MormonTimes.com

If you’re like me, you’re hoping to spread the Christmas cheer to family home evening tonight. Here are some great FHE ideas, activities, and even treats — courtesy of the blogs:

FHE: Being Saints

Mon, 12 Dec 2011 00:05:00 -0700

by Shauna Gibby
source: MormonLife.com

Mormon Life says: "This promise from the Lord to His Saints does not imply that we will be exempt from sufferings . . . but that we will be sustained through them." -Benjamin De Hoyos Conference Talk:
For more information on this topic read “Called to Be Saints” by Elder Benjamin De Hoyos, Ensign, May 2011, 106.

Thought:
This promise from the Lord to His Saints does not imply that we will be exempt from sufferings or trials but that we will be sustained through them and that we will know that it is the Lord who has sustained us.

(Elder Benjamin De Hoyos, “Called to Be Saints” Ensign, May 2011, 106.)

Song:
“The Church of Jesus Christ,” Children’s Songbook, p. 77.

Scripture:
Now therefore ye are no more strangers and foreigners, but fellow citizens with the saints, and of the household of God. And are built upon the foundation of the apostles and prophets, Jesus Christ himself being the chief corner stone. (Ephesians 2:19-20)

Lesson:
Ask one of the children in your family to construct a building out of blocks. Explain that Paul used an analogy of a building to discuss the Church of Christ.

Invite everyone to follow along and mark their scriptures as you read Ephesians 2:19–22 aloud. Discuss the following questions:

• What do you think of when you think of “strangers” or “foreigners”?
• According to verse 19, what invitation did Paul give to those who are strangers or foreigners to the Church? (To be fellowcitizens with the Saints and join the Church.)
• Why would it be better to be a fellowcitizen rather than a stranger?

Remove the cornerstone from the building your child has constructed and ask:

• What happened, or would eventually happen, to a building without a cornerstone or foundation?
• In Paul’s analogy, what is the foundation of the Church?
• Why are the Apostles and prophets the foundation? (Without the priesthood keys they hold and the revelation they receive, we would be left to our own interpretation, resulting in confusion which would cause the downfall of the building or the Church organization.)
• What is the cornerstone of the building?
• Without the cornerstone, how long will the foundation last?
• What does this teach you about the importance of Jesus Christ?

Talk to your family about the great blessing it is to be members of the Church of Jesus Christ restored in these latter days with the exact same foundation and cornerstone that existed for the Saints at the time of Jesus.

(Dennis H. Leavitt and Richard O. Christensen, Scripture Study for Latter-day Saint Families: The New Testament, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 2006], p. 235.)

Story:
[In Russia,] the forced collaboration of many people with the secret police in the mass repression and state-sponsored terror against millions of citizens made everyone fearful of spontaneous social participation and extremely distrustful of all but their most intimate friends. . . .

How could a people with such a background adapt to a church like that of the Latter-day Saints? Could they establish the close-knit community of brotherhood and sisterhood characteristic of Latter- day Saints elsewhere? Could they effectively support a church totally dependent upon the voluntary participation of all members? Would they learn to trust and loyally support each other in leadership callings? . . .

On a beautiful Easter Sunday we fully realized what had been gradually happening for some time. After individual services in each of the branches in Kiev, all the members came together in a large music hall in the center of the city for a joyous concert to celebrate the resurrection of Christ. Professional singers and instrumentalists, as well as excellent amateur musicians (who were all members of the Church), performed with inspiration to a packed house. A nationally known Ukrainian television anchorwoman, our own beautiful Sister Zina Zhuravleva, and her business executive husband, Boris, narrated the performance, reading appropriate scriptures from the Bible and Book of Mormon on the resurrection of Christ.

While this concert was a great spiritual and artistic event, the most impressive part happened after it had ended. Members did not want to leave, but greeted each other with great joy, tears, and hugs reminiscent of the Church at general conference time in Western countries. That the audience would not immediately and silently leave after the performance was unprecedented in a public concert hall in Kiev. The concert hall operators impatiently turned off the lights and rudely herded everyone outdoors into the square.

This did not deter the large throng of members and investigators of the Church, who continued to stand in a pouring, icy rain outside on the square for a considerable time, embracing one another, visiting, and enjoying being together. Only a few would leave. The rest wanted to be together more than they desired refuge from the deluge. This huge, joyous, loving crowd, standing in the rain, was a very strange sight to onlookers hurrying by on Kreshchatik Street in the center of Ukraine’s capital city.

Colleen and I also stood in the rain and shed tears of joy as we watched this sight. We were moved to see the love and spiritual closeness developing among the Saints. Although there were no physical facilities to accommodate them on that beautiful Easter Sunday in a cold rain, we realized that the Latter-day Saints of Kiev had, indeed, become a spiritual community—a people of God.

(Howard L. Biddulph, Morning Breaks: Stories of Conversion and Faith in the Former Soviet Union, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1996].)

Activity:
Give everyone a copy of the following coded message. Tell them that A=Z, B=Y, C=X, etc. Have them decode the message. (Answer: For thus shall my church be called in the last days, even The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. D&C 115:4).

Uli gsfh hszoo nb xsfixs yv xzoovu rmgsv ozhg wzbh, vevm Gsv Xsfixs lu Qvhfh Xsirhg lu Ozggvi-wzb Hzrmgh. 

Refreshment
Chocolate Almond Balls

1 8-ounce chocolate bar with almonds
1 8-ounce tub frozen whipped topping, thawed to room temperature
30 vanilla wafers, crushed
variety of candy sprinkles, coconut, or chopped nuts (optional)

Melt chocolate bar in top of a double boiler. Cool slightly (don’t let it become cold). Stir in thawed whipped topping. Using heaping teaspoonfuls of candy, shape into balls and roll in vanilla wafer crumbs or sprinkles or nuts.

(Lion House Christmas, [Salt Lake City: Shadow Mountain, 2006], p. 134.)

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FHE Service Project: Write Letters to Sick Children

Mon, 05 Dec 2011 08:53:00 -0700

source: family-home-evenings.com

Purpose: Jesus taught us by His teachings and His perfect example to bless those that are sick and afflicted. There are many seriously ill children in hospitals all over the world that would love to have your letters of hope and inspiration.

FHE: Christ-centered Home

Mon, 05 Dec 2011 00:05:00 -0700

by Shauna Gibby
source: MormonLife.com

Mormon Life says: The eternal nature of the family should inspire us to do everything we can to establish a Christ-centered home.

Conference Talk:
For more information on this topic read “Establishing a Christ-Centered Home,” by Elder Richard J. Maynes, Ensign, May 2011, 37.

Thought:
We understand and believe in the eternal nature of the family. This understanding and belief should inspire us to do everything in our power to establish a Christ-centered home.

(Elder Richard J. Maynes, “Establishing a Christ-Centered Home,” Ensign, May 2011, 37.)

Song:
“Happy Family,” Children’s Songbook, p. 198

Scripture:
That they should seek the Lord . . . and find him . . . For in him we live, and move, and have our being; . . . For we are also his offspring. (Acts 17:27-28)

Lesson:
Materials Needed: Several children’s blocks.

Procedure: Display the blocks on the tabletop. Ask for suggestions of things one family member can do to strengthen the family (pray, smile, show respect, obey, etc.). Each time a new idea is suggested, put a block on top of or beside another. Do this until a wall begins to form.

Ask: What would happen if we did at least one of these things for several days? Place an additional four or five blocks on the wall. Point out how much difference one person can make in strengthening the family. Liken the wall to a protection for the family.

Help your family members to understand that everything you have talked about also strengthens personal spirituality while strengthening the family. Similarly, as they continue to do things that increase personal spirituality, they also help protect family members. Discuss ways we can strengthen our personal testimony.

(Beth Lefgren and Jennifer Jackson, Object Lessons Made Easy, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 2010], p. 88.)

Story:
Ardeth Greene Kapp

Since I grew up in Alberta, Canada, I never had to dream of a white Christmas. There was always plenty of snow and cold at Christmastime. At least that’s how I remember it.

I also remember, besides the cold temperatures, the feeling of warmth, that happy feeling of being together as our parents, four aunts, uncles, and many cousins of all ages gathered at our grandparents’ big three-story house, where we remained from Christmas Eve clear through New Year’s Day.

This tradition must have seemed strange to the folks in our small town of Glenwood, since all of our aunts and uncles and cousins lived within walking distance of each other all year long, only a few blocks away from each other. It was not inconvenient for our dads and brothers to return home night and morning to milk the cows, do the chores, and be back in time for our large and happy family breakfast and evening supper. During the morning Conference Talk: we played games and listened to favorite stories told and retold by our grandmother as we gathered around the large grate in the floor that let the heat pour out from the furnace below. In the afternoon we practiced for the evening’s talent show while our mothers made pies and cakes. I don’t remember what our dads did during the day, but they joined us as we all gathered for supper; and after the evening meal we presented a talent show to a very responsive audience, who all sang together. We had a family orchestra and it was agreed, especially by our grandpa, that we were a very musical family.

Our Christmas morning tradition required everyone to wait at the top of the stairs until we could all go down together and gather around the big Christmas tree in the parlor. We had decorated our tree with strings of popcorn and cranberries. At the bottom of the stairs we waited for what seemed an awfully long time while Grandpa gave the family prayer. I remember wondering if the reason he prayed for so long was that all together we made such a big family. It seemed to me that each year, as our family grew bigger, his prayers got longer.

All these things occurred many years ago, but the memory of being together as a family for Christmas burns as brightly in my mind today as the flames in the fireplace that kept us warm.

I have a little pillow that hangs from our fireplace all year long. The message reads, in cross- stitch, “All Hearts Return Home for Christmas.” The quiet yearning to be home for Christmas does not diminish after childhood or after marriage. Since my husband’s parents were not living, it seemed essential that we travel from Utah to Glenwood, Alberta, Canada, every Christmas. It didn’t really matter that our car was old and the tires were smooth, that there was no money in our pockets, that the tuna fish sandwiches became very soggy by the second day, and that the radio announced that due to hazardous road conditions people should not travel except in emergencies. There was no question in my mind that being home for Christmas was an emergency.

Each year, so long as my parents lived in Canada, we went home for Christmas. Finally, eventually, I learned that you can be home for Christmas in Utah even though Christmases aren’t always white.

(Keeping Christmas: Stories from the Heart, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book Company, 1996].)

Activity:
Hang a stocking for Jesus on the mantel, and fill it with notes listing all the good things that the family members commit to do to better themselves and those around them.

(Kimberly Bytheway and Diane H. Loveridge, Traditions, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book Company, 2003], p.89.)

Refreshment
Peppermint Angel Food Dessert

1 angel food cake
3/4 cup crushed red and white peppermint stick candy
1/2 cup milk
1/2 envelope (1 1/2 teaspoons) unflavored gelatin
2 teaspoons water
2 cups heavy cream, whipped until stiff
1/2 cup chocolate syrup

Prepare or purchase an angel food cake. Slice into 3 horizontal layers when cool. Combine candy with milk; heat and stir until dissolved. Soften gelatin in water and add to milk and candy mixture. Chill until mixture starts to set; fold into whipped cream. Spread whipped cream mixture over bottom layer of cake. Drizzle chocolate syrup over whipped cream mixture. Place another layer of cake on top and repeat layers of whipped cream mixture and chocolate syrup. Repeat with third layer. Cover outside of cake with whipped cream mixture. Chill and serve.

(Lion House Cakes and Cupcakes, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 2011] p.8.)

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FHE: Potential

Mon, 28 Nov 2011 00:05:00 -0700

by Shauna Gibby
source: MormonLife.com

Mormon Life says: When we see our potential, it helps us reach beyond our weaknesses and selfish tendencies and live up to Heavenly Father's expectations. Conference Talk:
For more information on this topic read “Your Potential, Your Privilege,” by President Dieter F. Uchtdorf, Ensign, May 2011, 58.

Thought:
Think of what a glorious thing it is to reach beyond our earthly limitations, to have the eyes of our understanding opened and receive light and knowledge from celestial sources!

(President Dieter F. Uchtdorf, “Your Potential, Your Privilege,” Ensign, May 2011, 58.)

Song:
“I Am a Child of God,” Children’s Songbook, p. 2.

Scripture:
But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible. (Matthew 19:26)

Object Lesson:
Materials Needed: A mirror.

Procedure: Show mirror to family, let them see themselves if possible.

Ask: Does a mirror ever give us a true likeness of ourselves? Explain that a mirror throws our reflection back at us in reverse. We are so used to seeing ourselves in the way the mirror show us that few of us would recognize ourselves any other way. We all should seek for a glimpse of ourselves as seen in the sight of God. That wold be most revealing and most helpful.

(Adapted from Albert L. Zobell, Jr., Talks To See, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1971], p. 110.)

Story:
A beautiful young woman sent me a book entitled Hope for the Flowers (Trina Paulus [Paramus, N. J.: Paulist Press, 1972]). Let me share its message with you.

It tells of a tiny striped caterpillar and how he joined a pile of other squirming, pushing caterpillars who were trying to get to the top of the pile. It was only when he talked to a certain yellow caterpillar that the two of them decided that getting on the top wasn’t really what they wanted most. So, they climbed down and away from the others. They enjoyed being together, and they ate and grew fat until one day they became bored, and they wanted to find out if there was more to life. The striped caterpillar decided to find out by climbing again to the top of the caterpillar pile. The yellow caterpillar felt ashamed that she didn’t agree but decided it was better to wait until she could take action she could believe in. So he climbed, and she wandered aimlessly until she saw a caterpillar hanging upside down on a branch and caught in some hairy substance. She said, “You seem to be in trouble. Can I help you?” “No,” said the hanging caterpillar, “I have to do this to become a butterfly.”

“Butterfly? What is a butterfly?”

“It’s what you are meant to be. It flies with beautiful wings and joins the earth to heaven. It drinks only nectar from the flowers and carries seeds of love from one flower to another. Without butterflies the world would soon have few flowers.”

The yellow caterpillar exclaimed, “It can’t be true! How can I believe there’s a butterfly inside you or me when all I see is a fuzzy worm? How does one become a butterfly?”

The hanging caterpillar said, “You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar.”

The yellow caterpillar began fearfully but continued the process until at length she became a butterfly. Then she helped the striped caterpillar learn who he was and leave the pile to become what he was really meant to be. . . .

So it is for us as Latter-day Saints. We too must act worthy of ourselves and the glorious vision of truth and eternity which has been restored to us. That vision of eternal growth and gentle, loving persuasion is too great a dream to let go of when we hunger in our hearts to be one with our Savior.

The power is in you to reach out and claim those blessings. You have the powers within you to be Christlike. It is what you are meant to be.

(Barbara B. Smith, "The Powers Within You," speech given at Brigham Young University on 1 February 1981. © Intellectual Reserve, Inc. All rights reserved.)

Activity:
Play “Who Am I?”

Divide the players into two groups. To begin select a player from one of the groups to be “it.” “It” decides on a character from either the Bible, the Book of Mormon, or Latter-day Saint leaders and announces it source to the players. He then gives a clue; for instance if “it” chose Moses, he could say, “I went up a mountain.” Each group has one guess and if it gives the correct answer that side receives ten points. If no correct answer is given, another clue is offered for nine points, and so on. When the answer is given or the count gets to zero the other side choose one to be “it.”

(Alma Heaton, The LDS Game Book, [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1968], p. 34.)

Refreshment
Hazie’s Lazy-Dazy Cake

2 eggs
1 cup sugar
1 cup flour
1 teaspoon baking powder
1/2 cup milk
Dollop butter (about the size of a walnut)
1 teaspoon vanilla
1 recipe Lazy- Dazy Frosting (see below)

Grease and flour a 9x13-inch metal baking pan. Preheat oven to 325 degrees.

In a large bowl, beat the eggs lightly with a wire whisk. Beat the sugar into the eggs until combined well. In a separate bowl, sift the flour and baking powder together, and then stir it into the egg mixture; set aside. In a small saucepan, heat the milk over low heat until it is just about to boil. Stir constantly to prevent milk from scorching. Add the butter to the hot milk and stir until the butter melts. Immediately pour the hot milk/butter into the flour and egg mixture. Stir in the vanilla. Pour the batter into the prepared pan and bake for 25 to 30 minutes. Prepare Lazy- Dazy Frosting while cake is baking; pour over the cake while the cake is still hot. Return cake to the oven and turn on the broiler to brown the coconut. Watch carefully, so you don’t burn the cake.

Serves 12 to 16.

Lazy-Dazy Frosting

1/4 cup heavy cream
3/4 cup (1-1/2 sticks) butter
1/2 cup brown sugar, packed
1 cup shredded coconut

Combine all ingredients in a heavy saucepan over medium- high heat. Bring mixture to a boil, stirring consistantly; maintain boil for 31/2 minutes.

(Clark L. and Kathryn H. Kidd, 52 Weeks of Recipes for Student, Missionaries, and Nervous Cooks, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 2007], p. 36.)

To get the PDF version of this lesson, click here.

Christmas Service Countdown

Fri, 25 Nov 2011 12:00:00 -0700

source: family-home-evenings.com

Purpose: To reflect on serving one another in our families during the Christmas season. Often times we can focus on selfish thoughts during this gift-giving season. It’s important that we strive to keep the focus on being selfless as our Savior was as we celebrate His birth.

Lesson: “Over the years, many people, especially youth, have asked me, “Elder Cuthbert, how can I become more spiritual?” My reply has always been the same: “You need to give more service.

Thanksgiving FHE's

Fri, 18 Nov 2011 13:37:00 -0700

source: sofiasprimaryideas.blogspot.com

Now that the month is almost over... maybe I should post some Thanksgiving FHE ideas.... ugh, real slick Sofia. Thanks.

This is one of my absolute favorites because I really get to see what my children have learned Gospel wise and what some of their favorite scripture stories of the moment are.

FHE: Learning

Sun, 13 Nov 2011 00:05:00 -0700

by Shauna Gibby
source: MormonLife.com

Mormon Life says: Among the most important principles we teach is the principle of gaining knowledge through study and revelation. Use this lesson to discuss the importance of spiritual and temporal education. Conference Talk:
For more information on this topic read “Waiting on the Road to Damascus,” by Dieter F. Uchtdorf, Ensign, May 2011, 70.

Thoughts:
Those who diligently seek to learn of Christ eventually will come to know Him.

(Dieter F. Uchtdorf, “Waiting on the Road to Damascus,” Ensign, May 2011, 70.)

Song:
“Teach Me to Walk in the Light,” Children’s Songbook, p. 177.

Scripture:
Whatever principle of intelligence we attain unto in this life, it will rise with us in the resurrection. And if a person gains more knowledge and intelligence in this life through his diligence and obedience than another, he will have so much the advantage in the world to come.
(Doctrine and Covenants 130:18-19)

Object Lesson:
Materials Needed: A bowl filled with wheat or other whole grain.

Procedure: Ask what would happen if this grain was left in a dry place. Ask what would happen if it was planted and given water. Discuss.

Give a definition of wisdom (ability to judge what is right or true). Explain that the grain is like knowledge. To learn from that knowledge, experience and time must be added. Ask how experience added to knowledge can make wisdom.

(Beth Lefgren and Jennifer Jackson, More Power Tools for Teaching, [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1991], p. 102.)

Story:
Her lifelong dream had turned into what now seemed like a nightmare. During the long, hot summer days of picking potatoes and cucumbers, Alice had envisioned herself walking across the campus as a student at Brigham Young University. It was the goal that had kept her going when she would otherwise have given up.

Her determination had brought her to BYU for fall semester. And now the frustration, the pressure, the anguish that she faced seemed more like a nightmare than a reward for such effort. She hadn’t planned it this way. In fact, after arriving she had hardly planned at all.

Alice was one of the students in my class. Somehow she hadn’t realized the big difference between going to school and learning. She found the social side of college life more enticing than studying and learning. The urgency of preparing for her final exams hit her only after the opportunity for preparation had almost passed. It all seemed like a nightmare now. She must not fail, but she was unprepared. She had not committed herself to an education; she was just going to school.

She remembered people often asking her back home, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” Growing up had seemed so far away until this day. Now she was searching for the answer to that question, not for them but for herself. What did she want to do with her life and how did an education fit in?

Sister Camilla Kimball said, “What we must be concerned with is preparation for life, and that preparation is continuing education. Whether it is to earn a living or to rear a family, men and women both need to have the knowledge that enhances their natural talents.” (Address at Spencer W. Kimball Tower dedication, Brigham Young University, March 9, 1982.)

As we seek to know the Lord’s will and choose to carry it out, he will be there to guide us, to love us, to watch over us, to help us progress and learn. And because of our much learning, there will be many opportunities when our influence, our wisdom, our voice, and our vote will make the difference.

(Ardeth Greene Kapp, I Walk by Faith, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 1987].)

Activity:
A person claps only the rhythm of a known hymn or primary song. The other players try to name the hymn from the rhythm being clapped. The person who guesses correctly gets to be the next clapper.

Refreshment
Pumpkin Pie Milkshake

Even if you’re not crazy about pumpkin pie, this festive, spiced milkshake is guaranteed to be a hit. It’s one of our favorite family night treats during the fall and winter months!

1⁄3 cup pumpkin purée
1⁄4–1⁄2 cup milk
1⁄4 teaspoon vanilla
1⁄2 teaspoon cinnamon
Pinch of cloves
Pinch of nutmeg
2 tablespoons brown sugar
2 cups vanilla ice cream
1–2 graham crackers, crushed

1. Combine all the ingredients, except the graham crackers, in the blender and blend until the desired consistency is reached. Add more milk if desired.

2. Pour into individual serving glasses, sprinkle with graham cracker crumbs, and serve immediately.

(Sara Wells and Kate Jones, Our Best Bites, [Salt Lake City: Shadow Mountain, 2011] p. 244.)

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FHE: Seeking Forgiveness

Mon, 07 Nov 2011 00:12:00 -0700

by Shauna Gibby
source: MormonLife.com

Mormon Life says: "When we sin, Satan tells us we are lost. In contrast, our Redeemer offers redemption to all—no matter what we have done wrong—even to you and to me." -C. Scott Grow

Conference Talk:
For more information on this topic read “The Miracle of the Atonement,” by C. Scott Grow, Ensign, May 2011, 108.

Thought:
When we sin, Satan tells us we are lost. In contrast, our Redeemer offers redemption to all—no matter what we have done wrong—even to you and to me.

(C. Scott Grow, “The Miracle of the Atonement,” Ensign, May 2011, 108.)

Song:
“Help Me, Dear Father,” Children’s Songbook, p. 99.

Scripture:
Behold, he who has repented of his sins, the same is forgiven, and I, the Lord, remember them no more. By this ye may know if a man repenteth of his sins—behold, he will confess them and forsake them. (Doctrine and Covenants 58:42-43)

Object Lesson:
Materials Needed: A doormat.

Procedure: Display the doormat. Point out that it is put in front of the door to let those who enter wipe the dirt and debris from their feet so they will not soil the inside of the home.

Liken the doormat to repentance. Repentance enables us to remove the things from our lives that are not clean. Explain further that unless we cleanse our lives of such debris, we will not be allowed into our Father’s house.

(Beth Lefgren and Jennifer Jackson, Object Lessons Made Easy, [Salt Lake City: Deseret Book, 2010], p. 75.)

Story:
While preparing my talk for this conference, I received a shocking phone call from my father. He said that my younger brother had died that morning in his sleep. I was heartbroken. He was only 51 years old. As I thought about him, I felt impressed to share with you some events from his life. I do so with permission.

As a youth my brother was handsome, friendly, and outgoing―totally dedicated to the gospel. After serving an honorable mission, he married his sweetheart in the temple. They were blessed with a son and a daughter. His future was full of promise.

But then he gave in to a weakness. He chose to live a hedonistic lifestyle, which cost him his health, his marriage, and his membership in the Church.

He moved far from home. He continued his self-destructive behavior for more than a decade, but the Savior had not forgotten or abandoned him. Eventually the pain of his despair allowed a spirit of humility to enter his soul. His feelings of anger, rebellion, and militancy began to dissipate. Like the prodigal son, “he came to himself.”1 He began to reach out to the Savior and to make his way back home and to faithful parents who never gave up on him.

He walked the path of repentance. It wasn’t easy. After being out of the Church for 12 years, he was rebaptized and received again the gift of the Holy Ghost. His priesthood and temple blessings were eventually restored.

He was blessed to find a woman who was willing to overlook the ongoing health challenges from his prior lifestyle, and they were sealed in the temple. Together they had two children. He served faithfully in the bishopric for several years.

My brother died on Monday morning, March 7. The previous Friday evening he and his wife attended the temple. On Sunday morning, the day before he died, he taught the priesthood lesson in his high priests group. He went to bed that evening, never to awaken again in this life―but to come forth in the resurrection of the just.

I am grateful for the miracle of the Atonement in the life of my brother. The Savior’s Atonement is available to each of us—always.

(C. Scott Grow, “The Miracle of the Atonement,” Ensign, May 2011, 108.)

Activity:
One of the group leaves the room. While he is out, the other members of the group choose an object in the room which is in plain sight. The person returns to the room and guesses what the object is. For instance, he might say, “I guess that it is the piano.” The group does not tell him whether his guess is right or wrong at this point. He must go on and ask a question to try to verify his guess. He may ask any question about size, position in the room, color, texture, etc. For example if he wishes to check whether or not it is the piano, he would ask, “Is it more than four feet long?” If the answer is “No,” he knows it is not the piano and says, “I’ve made a mistake.” When he says this the family tries to help him by giving him a clue to guide him. He then makes another guess but is not told whether he is right or wrong until he asks a question to check his guess. If he is wrong again he says, “I’ve made a mistake,” and he gets another clue. Again he must ask a question. If he is wrong at the end of three guesses, the group will tell him what the object is.

The purpose of the game is to emphasize the idea that saying “I’ve made a mistake” brings benefits; for instance in this case the benefits are the clues given by the group to help him. If he fails to say, “I’ve made a mistake” when he has guessed wrong, his turn is over. If his guess is right, he should be told so at the end of his question. Allow each member to have a turn going out of the room and coming back to guess an object.

(Alma Heaton, The LDS Game Book, [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1968], p. 46.)

Refreshment
Fruit and Yogurt Parfait

1 quart blueberry yogurt
1 quart peach yogurt
1 quart raspberry yogurt
1 16-ounce box muselix cereal
4 cups raspberries
4 cups strawberries, quartered
4 cups blueberries
Raspberries, for garnish
Mint sprigs, for garnish

In tall parfait- style glasses alternate yogurt, muselix cereal, and berries to fill each glass. Garnish top with whole raspberries and a sprig of mint. Makes 20 parfaits.

(Lion House Weddings, [Salt Lake City: Eagle Gate, 2003], p. 63.)

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FHE: Benevolence

Mon, 31 Oct 2011 00:05:00 -0600

by Shauna Gibby
source: MormonLife.com

Mormon Life says: This lesson teaches about benevolence, a quality that embodies kindness, charity, and goodwill.

Conference Talk:
For more information on this topic read “Remember This: Kindness Begins with Me,” by Mary N. Cook, Ensign, May 2011, 118

Thought:
Benevolent is a lovely word that we don’t hear very often. Its roots are Latin, and it means “to wish someone well.” To be benevolent is to be kind, well meaning, and charitable.

(Mary N. Cook, “Remember This: Kindness Begins with Me,” Ensign, May 2011, 118.)

Song:
“Kindness Begins with Me,” Children’s Songbook, p. 145.

Scripture:
We believe in being honest, true, chaste, benevolent, virtuous, and in doing good to all men; indeed, we may say that we follow the admonition of Paul—We believe all things, we hope all things, we have endured many things, and hope to be able to endure all things. If there is anything virtuous, lovely, or of good report or praiseworthy, we seek after these things.

(Articles of Faith 1:13)

Lesson:
Materials Needed: Five pictures of Christ serving others (available at lds.org), such as: Jesus Healing the Blind, Sermon on the Mount, Christ and the Children, Boy Jesus in the Temple, Mary and Martha.

Procedure: Display the pictures of the Savior. Ask what Jesus was doing (helping, serving, loving, and so on). Point out that Jesus always helped in a kind way.

Explain that Jesus taught us to always show kindness. Being kind was one way Jesus showed love.

(Beth Lefgren and Jennifer Jackson, Sharing Time, Family Time, Anytime: Book Two, [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1994], p. 59.)

Story:
Statistics of Service
Laurie Hansen

The following is a letter to the editor I wrote expressing my deep gratitude for the many heroes who helped my family during a time of great trial. I also sent a personal copy to many of those mentioned in the letter. The love, prayers, and service we received showed me anew that, even though it sometimes appears that we live in a discouraging time of selfishness and narcissism, there is indeed hope for today’s world.

My husband was diagnosed with colon cancer eighteen months ago and died this month at the age of forty-four. I was unable to keep track of visits, phone calls, and many expressions of love. But I did write down many of the acts of kindness we received. One small act of kindness, which may seem insignificant or trivial by itself, when combined with many other such acts can mount up to immense support.

During the last eighteen months we received over 100 meals, 125 plates of treats or bakery goods, and over 500 cards or letters of good wishes. Approximately 270 people have donated money, 70 have given gifts, and over 300 people have contributed toward flowers. I have kept track of at least 375 kind acts involving time or labor. The people I work with donated over 130 hours of their own vacation time so that I could have more time with Greg, giving us the greatest gift they could: time together while he was alive. People we didn’t even know gave us a condominium in Hawaii for a week, and others gave us the money to finance the trip. A stay at a beach house, tickets to Disneyland, and airline tickets for our entire family, along with spending money to enjoy two full weeks in southern California were given last year so that our five daughters could enjoy their father while he still felt well. Use of a home in St. George was provided for several quick getaways. At the time Greg was diagnosed we were in the middle of building an addition on our home. Many came to help him complete the task he had started.

At times when I felt discouraged, someone would call, drop off a treat, or send just the right card. Baptists, Catholics, Episcopalians, Jews, Lutherans, Methodists, Mormons, Presbyterians, and many others offered prayers in our behalf. I figure that if every person who sent a card, meal, or treat also prayed once a day for us over the last eighteen months, it would amount to 396,575 prayers! In truth, I know there were more than five times that amount, for entire families, congregations, and prayer groups also prayed for us, many of them more than once a day.

I thank everyone from the bottom of my heart. You have pulled me through hard times and instilled in me a love for mankind for which I will be forever grateful.

(Beth Lefgren and Jennifer Jackson, Sharing Time, Family Time, Anytime: Book Two, [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1994], p. 59.)

Activity:
Play spider’s web.

Props: A ball of string.

Procedure: Participants form a circle, with the first person in the circle holding a ball of string. Start by tossing the ball to a participant, holding onto the end of the string as you throw it. State something you appreciate about that person you throw the ball to. The appreciation can be about something that recently happened or about the other person in general. The ball then travels across the circle to each player with everyone holding onto a piece of the string once the ball is tossed. Once everyone is holding onto the string, it is criss-crossed throughout the circle. Explain how they are all connected to one another. The leader then uses scissors to cut through the string. Leave each person a piece of string in their hand to remind them of the love and connections they have with each other.

Refreshment
Peanut Butter and Jam Bars

1⁄2 cup butter-flavored shortening
1⁄2 cup sugar
1⁄2 cup brown sugar
1⁄2 cup creamy peanut butter
1 large egg
1 teaspoon vanilla
11⁄4 cups flour
3⁄4 teaspoon baking soda
1⁄2 teaspoon baking powder
3⁄4 cup strawberry or raspberry jam

Glaze

1⁄4 cup real butter, melted
2 cups powdered sugar
1 teaspoon vanilla
2 tablespoons hot water
1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F.

2. Cream shortening and both sugars together until light and fluffy. Add in peanut butter and combine. Mix in egg and vanilla.

3. Add flour in small amounts at a time while the mixer is running. When about half of the flour is left, whisk the baking soda and baking powder into it. Combine well and then add the remaining flour mixture to the dough mixture and mix until everything is incorporated.

4. Reserve one cup of the dough and set aside. Take the remaining dough and press it into the bottom of an ungreased 9 x 13-inch pan. Spread jam evenly over the dough.

5. Crumble the reserved pieces of dough over the jam. You can also flatten small pieces into small discs and lay them over the jam. Some of the jam will still show through when you’re done and that’s fine.

6. Bake for 20–30 minutes. The top should be set and just barely golden brown. Don’t overcook. When done, remove from oven and cool on a rack. Wait until they are completely cooled to room temperature to glaze.

7. Mix all the glaze ingredients together and whisk until smooth. Spread over cooled bars. Let the glaze set a bit to harden and then cut the bars into squares or triangles.

(Sara Wells and Kate Jones, Our Best Bites, [Salt Lake City: Shadow Mountain, 2011], p. 214.)

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